Our Hotwives

ugcp wrote: ↑

Wed Oct 30, 2024 7:06 am

Great post, LFA! Real life details like this are so compelling, and useful for anyone navigating the lifestyle themselves.

Losing relationships in any non-monogamy situation is difficult, but not commonly considered by many people. Social support structures obviously understand typical monogamy, and most people can expect understanding and sympathy from friends and family when a monogamous relationship ends, but in these cases you can feel more alone and unsupported. But we on this forum understand, and give you our love and support! And of course you and Adventurer will need to lean on each other heavily too.

I'm confident you guys will do great as you navigate into the next chapters of your life.

Also, yeah, I'm totally digging you taking on the role of slutty Daphne getting gangbanged. If you decide to make it happen, I'll bring the scoobysnacks.

Thank you ucgp. I really appreciate this post. Thank you for understanding the loss this is and the real feelings involved.

As for scoobysnacks, that made me laugh. And funny guys may be Daphne's type.

Scooby snacks I hear? I wish you 3 all the best as you navigate forward in life, What you were had was special. You have a wonderful husband and he has a wonderful wife and you experienced many things in your journey. This also affects G as he was deeply involved also. May you all have peace in journey forward. You have touched many in your telling of your journey that you may not even have realized and my wife and I thank you all.
Farmers

Scooby snacks I hear? I wish you 3 all the best as you navigate forward in life, What you were had was special. You have a wonderful husband and he has a wonderful wife and you experienced many things in your journey. This also affects G as he was deeply involved also. May you all have peace in journey forward. You have touched many in your telling of your journey that you may not even have realized and my wife and I thank you all.
Farmerj

Is it too sensitive of a thing to say why A needed a break from the Hot Wife lifestyle? I have no doubt about him realizing the sacrifice you're making for him. I'm also confident that he's aware your trying to "stuff down your feelings". I'm sure that noticing that only amplifies the gravity of his request. I can't imagine that you two haven't discussed this several times? When you did discuss it did you feel like you needed to do any sort of "damage control"?

Ultimately, you chose to keep your relationship with your husband as your primary motivation. I can't give you enough credit for sifting through all the experiences and looking firmly at was best for you all. I have the utmost respect for you!

Lookingforadventure wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 03, 2024 8:59 am

trecital wrote: ↑

Wed Oct 30, 2024 3:02 pm

How about one that says "I fucked him last night and that's why he's winning this race".

Thanks for sharing your adventures with us.🥰

Lol. I like that. I did offer to change shirts and offer him a new view every 5 or 10km. But then he wanted me to wear no bra, and change on the side of the road. I'd probably get arrested.

LFA
- Actually probably not and at worst a citation.
- Women in Ontario won the right to go topless anywhere in the Province back in the 90's, just like men, as long as no sexual act was involved.

Farmerj wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 03, 2024 10:13 am

Scooby snacks I hear? I wish you 3 all the best as you navigate forward in life, What you were had was special. You have a wonderful husband and he has a wonderful wife and you experienced many things in your journey. This also affects G as he was deeply involved also. May you all have peace in journey forward. You have touched many in your telling of your journey that you may not even have realized and my wife and I thank you all.
Farmerj

Thank you friend. I appreciate you.

coastalkid wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 03, 2024 12:48 pm

Is it too sensitive of a thing to say why A needed a break from the Hot Wife lifestyle? I have no doubt about him realizing the sacrifice you're making for him. I'm also confident that he's aware your trying to "stuff down your feelings". I'm sure that noticing that only amplifies the gravity of his request. I can't imagine that you two haven't discussed this several times? When you did discuss it did you feel like you needed to do any sort of "damage control"?

Ultimately, you chose to keep your relationship with your husband as your primary motivation. I can't give you enough credit for sifting through all the experiences and looking firmly at was best for you all. I have the utmost respect for you!

His reasons are his reasons and it isn't really my place to get into them. I can say that we've discussed them a lot. He also knows how I'm feeling and he recognizes that cost it has been to me.

Long Lurker 34 wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 03, 2024 2:52 pm

LFA
- Actually probably not and at worst a citation.
- Women in Ontario won the right to go topless anywhere in the Province back in the 90's, just like men, as long as no sexual act was involved.

I do actually know that and was kind of kidding about being arrested, although it also seems that most women are not making use of thatpermission to be topless.

Speaking of Ontario and nudity, though, have you ever been to the nude beach at Hanlan's point? It is on my bucket list.

Lookingforadventure wrote: ↑

Wed Nov 06, 2024 5:37 am

Long Lurker 34 wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 03, 2024 2:52 pm

LFA
- Actually probably not and at worst a citation.
- Women in Ontario won the right to go topless anywhere in the Province back in the 90's, just like men, as long as no sexual act was involved.

I do actually know that and was kind of kidding about being arrested, although it also seems that most women are not making use of thatpermission to be topless.

Speaking of Ontario and nudity, though, have you ever been to the nude beach at Hanlan's point? It is on my bucket list.

LFA
- I was on a ski bus on the return leg of a day trip having dropped off most people and heading for the last spot. This was during a winter (of course) Olympics twenty odd years ago when Canada won at least one gold, literally during the ride back from the trails. We made the turn onto Yonge St heading north and (the memory has faded a bit) north or south of Eglington, with the bus just crawling along at less than walking speed and people outside actually rocking it, this young slender short haired woman emerges through the crowd running up the street topless. All I can say is it has been the only time and she had a nice rack.
- No, but years ago I paddled past it several times and I think you may have missed the opportunity this year. I bet i know someone who would be up for and adventure of that type.

Lookingforadventure wrote: ↑

Wed Nov 06, 2024 5:36 am

coastalkid wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 03, 2024 12:48 pm

Is it too sensitive of a thing to say why A needed a break from the Hot Wife lifestyle? I have no doubt about him realizing the sacrifice you're making for him. I'm also confident that he's aware your trying to "stuff down your feelings". I'm sure that noticing that only amplifies the gravity of his request. I can't imagine that you two haven't discussed this several times? When you did discuss it did you feel like you needed to do any sort of "damage control"?

Ultimately, you chose to keep your relationship with your husband as your primary motivation. I can't give you enough credit for sifting through all the experiences and looking firmly at was best for you all. I have the utmost respect for you!

His reasons are his reasons and it isn't really my place to get into them. I can say that we've discussed them a lot. He also knows how I'm feeling and he recognizes that cost it has been to me.

Thanks for your reply. It's clear that this is a sensitive issue and there are still some difficult feelings about your decision to stop your hot wife activities. I hope you and your husband can find some peace and happiness eventually.

Thanks to everyone for their nice comments, private messages, and notes of encouragement. It has really meant a lot to us.

It has been a little over a month since Adventurer and I decided to take a break from non-monogamy. The ladies in the lounge told me from the start that whenever they took breaks from the lifestyle, it was good for their relationships with their husbands. I think they were trying to cheer mevup, but they were also right.

The past month has included a lot of good conversations for Adventurer and I (and not just about sex), but it has also been a good opportunity to make sure our marriage was a priority. Sometimes in our busyness as parents, full time employees, children of senior parents, etc. We forget to do that.

So it has been an excellent month of date nights and after dinner walks, amazing sex, morning cuddles in bed, and making sure we feel supported by each other. There were some low times for me, when I was emotional about missing G or giving up my hot wife adventures. Adventurer was great at letting me feel what I needed to feel, holding me, and talking through it.

All of which is to say that we are in a very good place....and, we've decided to open things back up again!!!!

We are trying to take things slow and make sure we communicate well along the way. Don't expect a lot of sexy stories from me immediately. Lol

With that said, Adventurer did reach out to G to give him an update. I had said, half in jest, that we didn't know for sure that G would even still be interested.

Fortunately for me, he was! A hotel date is on our calendar, and when I have a bit of time, I'll tell you about our quick meet up Friday "for a walk".

Sometimes it's good to take a vacation (the word is 'holiday' really, but I've made a concession just for you!).

Is Adventurer ready for your hot wife reboot? Have the issues that lead to Adventurer asking for the break been addressed? Will you do things any differently from before?

Awesome update! We're so happy for y'all.

This exciting news just made my day! I'm very happy for you. All of you.

coastalkid wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 17, 2024 11:01 am

Is Adventurer ready for your hot wife reboot? Have the issues that lead to Adventurer asking for the break been addressed? Will you do things any differently from before?

Great questions…

Mr. Swani

trecital wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 17, 2024 6:13 am

Sometimes it's good to take a vacation (the word is 'holiday' really, but I've made a concession just for you!).

Yes it is! Holidays and vacations are both welcome any time.

coastalkid wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 17, 2024 11:01 am

Is Adventurer ready for your hot wife reboot? Have the issues that lead to Adventurer asking for the break been addressed? Will you do things any differently from before?

The short answer to your questions is that restarting was Adventurer's idea. Right now, I'm the voice of caution, trying to make sure that we are both ready to walk through this door if we reopen it again. He says he's 100% sure. As for doing things differently, I think we all always learn and adapt in life. So yes, there will be tweaks.

Her number1 wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 17, 2024 5:43 pm

Awesome update! We're so happy for y'all.

Thank you friend. It is good to be back...even though all I've really done so far was meet G for a walk. LOL

It was funny because I was feeling nervous/cautious about restarting things. Adventurer told me to just go see G and he was sure my excitement would return. He was right

When I saw G, my head tried to remind me to take things slow -- one step at a time -- and then see how everyone felt afterwards. Other parts of my body, had other ideas, though. It was a wrestling match of wills. I kissed G by his car and held his hand as we went for a walk. We kissed on a bridge and my head made me pull G's hand away when it attempted to slip under my clothes. "Baby steps," I said to him.

A bit later, we were under a different bridge and kissing some more. G's cock was pressing hard against me and my brain couldn't compete. My hand stroked him through his pants and I asked if it would be terribly naughty of me if I unzipped him. He laughed and said it was only a teeny bit naughty. The good level of naughty.

We were in a fairly private spot, but there was a set of stairs to my right and a trail to our left. Someone could have walked by at any time. G suggested we go back to the car and attempt to have privacy there. I agreed that was a good idea, I just needed a taste first

Once my mouth had a taste, there was no turning back. Good thing Adventurer and G love my slutty side. LOL I returned home with a smile and the taste of cum on my tongue.

hoping_she_will_1day wrote: ↑

Mon Nov 18, 2024 3:59 am

This exciting news just made my day! I'm very happy for you. All of you.

Thank you. It made my day, too, once I was sure that we were really sure about taking this step. Thanks for your encouragement during the break.

I'm glad you're both excited and happy! I've always believed that people that truly, deeply love each other will work together to find their way. Sounds like you're back on track, congratulations!

And you're... back in the room!

So great that you took the opportunity, to re-evaluate, regroup and put everything into perspective.
Also, it's so valuable that you showed each other that no matter how much fun Hotwifing might be, your relationship
is the most important thing.

Now, getting back into it again, you are both stronger as individuals and together.
You guys are a real hotwifing poster couple!

54321

I am beyond ecstatic that your adventure has not ended, so I cannot even imagine how you three (actually more) are feeling. I suspect that others besides me are concerned about how Adventurer is actually doing. In looking back we should have noticed his diminished participation on here. Hopefully he comes back and participates more frequently, like he was doing several months ago. That participation would certainly alleviate some of MY concerns about how he is feeling about the journey. I am just a wannabe, but in my dreams I am "Adventurer" while my wife is "Looking for Adventure", When your journey stopped my dreams also stopped. Right now I am officially back to dreaming, but cautiously. So, not to put pressure on Adventurer, but as he goes, at least I go, if not more of us on here.

Late

Glad everyone is happy and hope Adventurer is okay with everything.

LFA
- Like many others I'm happy and pleasantly surprised to have you return and to learn that Adventurer has given his okay for you to reengage with G.
- What with one thing another, just the fact you held hands with G I found hot.